I’ve been there. You’re pouring your heart into this keto lifestyle, fighting to lose weight and feel good, but it feels like the world around you is working against you. Maybe it’s your family leaving donuts on the counter “just for you.” Maybe it’s a friend who sulks when you skip the pizza night. Or worse, someone who manipulates you into eating with guilt trips or passive-aggressive jabs. Living with enablers and in an environment that doesn’t support your goals? It’s exhausting, frustrating, and downright lonely. Let’s unpack this together, because you’re not alone—and you can rise above it.

The Weight of Enablers

First off, let’s talk about those enablers. They come in all shapes and sizes, and they can make you feel like you’re climbing a mountain with no rope. There’s the jealousy type—maybe a sibling or friend who feels threatened by your progress and “tests” you with sweets, hoping you’ll stumble so they don’t feel so bad about their own choices. I’ve felt that sting, girl, when someone I loved seemed happier seeing me fail than succeed.

Then there’s mental illness. If someone in your home is battling depression or anxiety, they might lean on food for comfort—and push you to join them, not out of malice, but because it’s their coping mechanism. It’s not fair, but it’s real. Manipulation is another beast—think of a partner who guilts you with, “If you loved me, you’d share this cake.” Or the passive-aggressive ones who leave comments like, “You’re no fun since you started keto,” trying to pull you back into old habits. And don’t get me started on anger—some folks lash out when you set boundaries, making you feel like the bad guy for choosing health.

All of this creates an environment that’s a minefield. You’re trying to stick to your keto plan, but every corner has a temptation or a judgment waiting. It’s enough to make you want to throw in the towel and say, “What’s the point?” I get it, because I’ve been in that dark place too.

Feeling Alone in the Fight

Let’s talk about a client of mine… I’ll call her Leah for now—she’s feeling this hard. She’s committed to keto, but she’s surrounded by people who don’t get it. Maybe her spouse brings home chips “for the kids” but leaves them where she can’t avoid them. Maybe her mom calls her “too strict” and pushes mashed potatoes at dinner. She’s doing her best, but the lack of support makes her feel isolated, like she’s battling this giant alone. That loneliness zaps her fire, girl. It did for me when I first started my journey—until I found a way to fight back.

Turning the Tide

Here’s the good news: you don’t have to let enablers win. I know it feels impossible when you’re in it, but you’ve got more power than you realize. Start by recognizing these patterns for what they are—their issues, not yours. Jealousy, manipulation, anger? That’s their baggage, not a reflection of your worth. You’re not selfish for choosing health; you’re brave.

Next, carve out your space. I had to get creative—keeping keto snacks in my bag, prepping meals I could control, even eating before family gatherings so I wasn’t tempted. It’s not perfect, but it’s a start. And here’s the big one: you don’t have to do this solo. I learned that the hard way. When my environment was a mess, I leaned on a coach and a community who cheered me on. Leah, if that’s you reading this, find your people stick with your people. A coach can be your lifeline, someone who’s been in the ditch and knows the way out. Picture this: a coach jumps into that hole with you, not to stay stuck, but to guide you out because they’ve walked that path. That’s what turned my struggle into strength.

Hope for a New You

You can break free from this, I promise. It took me time to shift my mindset and build a support system, but once I did, my keto lifestyle stuck. Leah, or whoever’s feeling this weight, you’re not doomed to fail because of your environment. You can change your story. Start small—set one boundary, find one ally, reach out for help. Surround yourself with voices that lift you up, not tear you down. A team—whether it’s a coach, a friend, or an online group—can be your shield against those enablers.

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You’re stronger than the donuts, the guilt trips, and the loneliness. I’ve seen it in myself, and I see it in you. Let’s fight this together. If you’re ready to stop feeling alone and start winning, grab a spot on my calendar. Let’s chat, build your plan, and find someone to walk this road with you. You’ve got this, and I’m here cheering you on!